“Just be yourself.”
Everybody has heard that statement as some point in their lives. Whether it be, before an interview or before you meet your partners parents for the first time. Everyone has heard it and I guess to everyone it has a different meaning.
Fun fact: If I was to just be myself I would be seen as an emotional wreck of a person who has an unhealthy love for sad, moving music and enjoys being alone but not lonely.
The truth is just being yourself is bloody hard. When you first meet people you don’t let them see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, magical person that you are. Your probably on your best behaviour, pretending to be well mannered even when you know you swear like a trooper and love a few too many drinks at the weekend.
With the likes of Instagram and Facebook allowing people to show only their highlights it’s painting this picture that everyone around you is 100 times better than you will ever be. Making you think that that girls highlight is brighter than your future and god, your ex loves his new girlfriend so much more than he ever loved you. He posted it on Facebook therefore it must be true.
It’s all bullshit. Nobody is going to tell the world that their parents spend most of their time screaming at each other instead of loving each other, or that they can’t bare to look at themselves in the mirror. Nobody does that because nobody actually wants to see the real you. Nobody is interested.
We have all become obsessed with Snapchat filters that cover our noses or makes our eyes bigger because everyone has a little something they would like to change about themselves.
Maybe it’s time we all just accept the fact that we have all become frauds. Maybe it’s about time we accept the good with the bad and get on with it instead of creating these unreachable standards. Because at the end of the day, I’m just your average 21 year old who’s desperately trying to just be them-self in a world that constantly tells us not to be. And I’m almost certain that I’m not the only one.