What To Give Up To Move On

Moving on from the comfort zone in your life can be incredibly difficult but if you have already realised that you need to move on then you are past the first hurdle. Noticing that you need to move on to something new is difficult in itself but sadly that is the easy part.  There are certain things in life that you need to cut out and stop letting them effect you and this post is about those things and how to combat them.

Stop letting the opinions of others around you effect how you feel about yourself. The only opinion that should matter is your own so start doing whats best for you instead of putting other people first. You will quickly find that the people who matter don’t care and the people that do don’t matter.

Don’t be ashamed of failures in your past because your past is not your future and if you didn’t fail at anything then you wouldn’t learn. I think that as long as you learn from your failures and mistakes then they were worth it. Focus on your life now rather than your past and you will feel a lot happier with yourself.

Decide what you want from your life and don’t be indecisive. Once you have made a decision about what you want from your life really work for it. You are never going to leave where you are right now if you can’t decide where you want to be in the future.

Once you have decided which goals you want to reach don’t procrastinate. You can either accept how your life currently is or you can take responsibility for your life and change it for the better. Write your goals down and put them somewhere that you will see them everyday and don’t stop working for them lil you have reached them.

Live everyday to the fullest possible because you never know when it’s going to be over. Morbid I know, but never chose to do nothing over doing something new. There are at least 365 opportunities in a year so make the most of them.

Learn to accept when you are wrong. You will learn so much more if you lose the need to always be correct and you will find that more people will like you if you aren’t as argumentative.

If you have a problem in your life that could be fixed either through communicating or working a little bit harder just do it. Stop running away from problems that could quite easily be solved. If you aren’t willing to fix anything then don’t complain about them when they don’t sort themselves out.

This next tip is quite a bit like the tip above! When it comes to making decisions stop putting them off and start facing them head on. Later on in life you will realise that your biggest failures were the fact that you couldn’t act on a decision.

You will find it incredibly difficult to be happy with yourself if you can’t see past the negative aspects in your life. You will be much happier if you can look past these negative aspects and focus on the positive ones.  If you stop looking for these negative aspects then you probably won’t see them. It’s relatively simple because the negative points probably aren’t even there or as big a problem as you thought so stop looking for them in everything you do.

Last but not least, just live in the moment. I am the worst for this. I want to accomplish everything right now and when I can’t I get incredibly uncomfortable. Whats worse is sometimes you feel like you want to do all these things right now but when it actually comes down to it happening you can find that you actually weren’t ready at all. Slow down, take your time and learn to love your life now. Happiness is a way of life and not a destination.

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Being Brave

What would you do if you were being sensible? What would you do if you were being brave? You can’t change your life by doing all the same things you have always done. Being brave is a massive step to being someone new and achieving things you never thought possible. Whether you take little steps at a time or a massive leap it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that your taking the steps towards what you want to do with your one and only life.

Believe me when I say that I don’t like change. I never liked the idea of going to far off places, somewhere with new languages or weird animals that look cute but are deadly. That never appealed to me until this year. I got a graduate job that I never thought I would be lucky enough to get and I’m actually kind of good at it. I think that getting it just made me realise that I can do the things I never thought I could. I answer telephones and deal with picky people who want designs to be just right even if they are wrong. I tell them they are wrong in a round about way to make them think it was their idea to change it. Instead of  rolling over and accepting everything thats thrown my way I’m actually questioning and explaining which is totally not me and I’m enjoying it. I keep surprising myself with little things.

Telling myself to get myself together is big part of that. I set myself up to get what I want now instead of setting myself up to fail. It’s a new outlook that does actually mean a lot.

I get in my car and drive to new places without my sat nav guiding the way. I read sign posts and take the wrong roads but I enjoy it now which is strange because turning the sat nav on before used to scare me. Theres more to see than a screen. Looking out the window and stopping in little towns you would usually pass through. Taking my time isn’t wasting time, it’s making memories and living in the moment. Something I never did before. Everything was planned to within an inch of its life.  Don’t get me wrong, I still have freak outs about not having everything planned if I stop and think about it long enough. But as long as I remember which roads I took to get there, it’s easy enough to find your way home.

I completed my first five kilometre run and raised £285 and counting for Jo’s Cervical Cancer Trust through our Just Giving page. That I never would have done before. Would have been too worried about what other people thought and I would have thought through a million different situations through in my head before hand. But instead I got up and ran it with Kelly and we did something different, new and worthwhile. We obviously feel like we didn’t push ourselves enough either because we are running the Falkirk Supernova five kilometre run in November too. It’s these little things that show you just how far you have come and it just shows that your capable of pushing though even when you want to stop.

I guarantee that if you have a look at your own life you will realise that you’ve accomplishing things you never would have before. Even if they are just little accomplishments at least your still taking steps in the right direction.

Take the road less travelled even if it says it’s not suitable for motor vehicles. Worry about it in the moment and laugh about it later.

 

 

That Grown Up Word

Mortgage. The fact that it took me three tries to even spell mortgage right screams that I am anything but ready to have one. The idea of saving and scrimping and not buying make-up whenever I feel like is making me feel very grown up. A whole lot more grown up than I thought I would be at this point in my life.

I’m 21. I’ve graduated from uni and I have a full time job. I have my own car and I pay for my own holidays. I have now been granted permission to have candles in my room and I don’t need reminding to turn my hair straighteners off before I leave in the morning. I have officially made it to the next stage. The scary thing is that the next step is a house and buying my own toaster and all the other stuff you don’t really think about when you live with your parents.

How do you even pay your taxes or pay for your electricity and water and all your usual stuff that just happens when you flick a switch or turn on the tap? For some reason all this important stuff was skipped at school and university. Why is there not a class that teaches you about paying bills and living like an adult? They teach you how to bake a cake but not how to live your life on your own. That makes no sense.

I don’t have to worry now though because the house won’t be for at least another two years. Two years of scrimping and saving and not eating take-away twice a week to save money. You just know it’s gonna be tough but I’m hoping that when we finally find ourselves in our first home, sat on the living room floor with a few beers and shit Saturday night tv, we will know we have made it and we did it all on our own.